Wednesday, February 6, 2013

Where Do We Get Our Parental Credentials?


We live in a culture where credentials are very important (sometimes even more important than character). Credentials or another way to put it, recommendations, are often sought through higher education, degrees, experience, and the like. Notice, that all of these worldly “credentials” are sought to better the one seeking; in other words they all point to self. Take note: I am not saying these are sinful, but they are not the end to our qualifications. Paul tells us that he gets his credentials (recommendations) from a different place: those he ministers to.

“Are we beginning to commend ourselves again? Or do we need, like some people, letters of recommendation to you or from you? You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everybody. You show that you are a letter from Christ, the result of our ministry, written not with ink but with the Spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts” (2 Corinthians 3:1-3).

Key phrases in this passage of scripture are: “You yourselves are our letter…known and read by everybody…” and “…the result of our ministry…” The one place where we can find that we are qualified in ministry is in the ones we minister to. Are those that you minister to living for Christ, following His word, and modeling the character, grace and mercy of Jesus? Those we influence in our ministry are our credentials! They are our letter of recommendation! They are the ones that make it obvious to others whether we are (or not) effective in ministry. What a heavy responsibility!  

Likewise, parents can apply this very principle to raising children. Children give position to their parent’s credentials. They qualify us to be ministers in God’s kingdom (1 Timothy 3:4-5). Do our children reflect the heart of God? Do they follow His commands and seek His word for wisdom? Whose character do they wear? The world’s or Christ’s. As parents, this is hard to face, especially when we have children that are not wearing Christ’s character and are living for themselves instead of God. When our children’s behavior is contrary to God’s character, as parents we have to ask ourselves the hard questions: are we modeling this negative behavior for them? Are we not addressing the issue with our children? Parenting is a hard position to fill; it is not one we can do alone. We can only find confidence in this role with Jesus, especially if we seek to succeed. Notice what Paul continues to say,  

“Such confidence as this is ours through Christ before God. Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant--not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life” (2 Corinthians 3:4-6).

The key phrases in this passage are, “Not that we are competent in ourselves….but our competence comes from God…” It is only by the power, grace and mercy of God through His Spirit that we can succeed in ministering to God’s people, and likewise our children. “…for the letter kills…” does not negate the need for the law, but the law alone leads to death. We need the Spirit of God writing the law on our hearts, not just our minds so that we can be fruitful in our endeavors to obey it. When the law is written on our hearts (where we are fully obeying because we desire to not because we have to) our lives are then read by others as success. They see the value of following God’s ways and not following man’s accomplishments.

Not only do ministers have a responsibility to guide people to live for God, parents have the same when it comes to raising children to love and live for the Lord; our responsibility does not just rely on filling our children’s minds with His instruction; we need to impact their heart, as well. If we don’t succeed with their heart, we fail to be effective in the development of other areas in their life. Our children and those we minister to are the test for nonbelievers as to whether following God is THE successful route to take or not.

Lord, may I never forget where I get my confidence and my power which is in YOU alone. May I never neglect to minister to the heart (not just the mind) of those in my influence (my children and God’s people).   

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